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Being Honest 正直であること

Today I want to talk to you about being honest.

I had a friend and co-worker tell me he had something he wanted to tell me. Now he was regularly in my office almost every day just to chat.私の友人でもあった同僚が、私に伝えたいと思っていた事があると言ってきました。彼は私のオフィスで毎日のように私と話していました。

That day seemed no different at first but he said something like ‘I haven’t told anyone this but…’ and he went on explaining how he started to fall in love with another woman who was not his wife. He ended with ‘I don’t know why I’m telling you but I don’t know what to do.’

Then recently a student of mine started telling me about her company. She started with ‘I’ve haven’t told anyone this yet but…’ and she continued to explain how she knows about some continuous criminal activity going on in her workplace.
Due to the workplace environment and situation she fears to tell her boss. She ended with ‘I don’t know what to do’.
Today’s Bible passage is Ephesians 4:17-25 and using the New Living Translation.

(17) With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused. (18) Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. (19) They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity.

(20) But that isn’t what you learned about Christ. (21) Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, (22) throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. (23) Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. (24) Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

(25) So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body.
Ephesians 4:17-25


POINT 1 – Not like the Gentiles…
ポイント1- 異邦人のように歩むのではなく…

17 – Mentions not living like the Gentiles do. This can be taken to not worldly living.
17 節- 異邦人のように歩むのではなくと言及しています。これは、世俗的な生き方ではなくと解釈することができます。

18/19 – The minds of these worldly people are not of God. They follow own desires and wrong doings.
18/19節 – 神のいのちから遠く離れています。好色に身をゆだねて、あらゆる不潔な行いをむさぼるようになっています。

That way of thinking and living is not how those who know Christ as their savior are to live and act. From the passage you can get the image that people are blind to know what is right and pure. There is no sense or understanding of sin.

When I talk to people in Japan about sin, it seems common that many people don’t understand or know the definition.

20-24 – “But you are not like that, you have learned Christ.“
20から24節 – “しかし、あなたがたはキリストを、このようには学びませんでした。”

We are therefore to live different from those of the world, culture, or Buddhist ways. Therefore live not like the Gentiles of today.

The message of Christ is taught in the Bible here, and in the mouths of good Christian leaders. We learn the love and discipline of Christian living.

If you have accepted Christ into your life, you have accepted the Holy Spirit to be in and with you.

Verse 23 is important, “Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.”

POINT 1 – Not like the Gentiles … but like Christ, led by the Spirit!
ポイント1 – 異邦人のように歩むのではなく..御霊に導かれ、よりキリストのように!

The first sentence in this next verse, verse 25, in the NLT says it clear and simple. “So stop telling lies.”
25節 この次の最初の箇所でリビングバイブルは、明確かつシンプルに、 “ですから、あなたがたは偽りを捨てなさい”と書いています。

And I am sure the first reaction to that for most people is, ‘I’m not a liar!’.

The way I see it, not many consider themselves liars. People tend to make themselves look better than they really or truly are. Extending the truth by exaggerations or bending the truth. Something I know I have been guilty of.
(25) So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. Ephesians 4:25
(25)ですから、あなたがたは偽りを捨て、おのおの隣人に対して真実を語りなさい。私たちはからだの一部分として互いにそれぞれのものだからです。 エペソ4章25節
POINT 2 – Be honest and don’t tell lies!
ポイント2 – 偽りを捨て、真実を語りなさい!

Going back to the first story of the man who started telling me about his new love. He tried to blame it on his wife, she doesn’t talk or connect to me like this new woman. He was unwilling to say it is partly at fault, if not 100% his fault for his failed marriage.

But there was one good thing he started to do, and that was tell his neighbor, me, as the second half of verse 25 says. “So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body.”
彼がもしも1つ良いことをしたとするならば、それは彼の隣人である私に25節の後半が述べているように伝えたということです。 “ですから、あなたがたは偽りを捨て、おのおの隣人に対して真実を語りなさい。私たちはからだの一部分として互いにそれぞれのものだからです。”

POINT 3 – Get right, by telling the right person. (confession of sins)
ポイント3 – 適任者に伝え、改善する/罪の告白

In my opinion, the student told me about the criminal activity happening at her workplace because she felt she needed to tell someone or was seeking some inner peace.

I found it interesting that these two people and even others have told me some secrets even deeper and darker than that.

I can understand and assume that they want help by telling someone and seek advice or prayer. Just thinking about it I consider that confessional box that Catholic churches have.

It might show that people have a desire to get right and tell someone. Who better than the Priest, friend, or leader?

There is someone and the answer is simple, if you look at Matthew 11:28 you read the words of Jesus:
(28) Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…
Matthew 11:28


Christ is the one who we are to turn to. Jesus Christ is the right person but it is also always good to find a faithful Christian leader or friend to pray with.

Those who don’t know Christ either keep their sins and secrets to themselves or maybe tell others, like my friend who talked to me.

But we, as believers, are blessed to have and know a savior we can turn to, additionally we have fellow Christians and church leaders to help us. They can pray for and encourage us.

There was a married Christian man who was away on a business trip and staying at a hotel. Being away from home he felt a little lonely.

One day he was going up an escalator and noticed a very beautiful woman coming down the next escalator. The two made eye contact and he just thought, ‘wow, she is so beautiful’.
ある日、彼はエスカレーターを上がっていくと、非常に美しい女性が横のエスカレーターを下って来るのに気づいた。 二人は、目があい、彼は「なんて美しい女性なんだと」と思いました。

But he knew that thought was wrong and ignored it.

Moments later, he heard a woman’s voice calling from behind him, ‘excuse me’ and he turned around to see that same woman. Believe it or not, she handed him a note with her room number on it.

In the evening sitting in his room, the temptation grew, ‘nobody would know…’.
彼はその夜、心の誘惑は誘惑は大きくなり、「誰にも知られないだろう… 」と思いました。

He sat by the phone considering to give her room a call. He picked up the phone and decided to call her.

At the last second he called his wife instead and explained the truth of his feeling and the situation, and asked for prayer right then and there.

As soon as the prayer finished, the temptation was completely gone. He knew what he was supposed to do before it became too late.

In James we read:
(16) Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16

Another verse that confirms the need to pray and confess is in Proverbs, we read:
(13) Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. Proverbs 28:13

We are not to be afraid of people. We should stand strong in what we know is right in Christ.

We must not keep our faith or what Christ has done in our lives a secret.

This leads to the last point for today.

POINT 4 – Don’t have a secret love affair with Christ.
ポイント4- イエス様との関係を秘密にしてはいけません。

I encourage all of you today to talk to your family and your loved ones again about God and what Christ has done in your life.

I encourage all of you to ask and discuss with non-believers what they think.

Plant those seeds or water ones that were planted before. Don’t wait for the right opportunity but make the opportunity to share Christ.

An important part of this is giving time to God each day. Seeking His will in your life and those you know.

A great example of doing this was shown to me while I visited a family in Tokyo. I stayed at there home one night and once we finished dinner it was devotional time for everyone, including me their guest.

It was just like part of the meal for their family. They made it a public and regular part of their daily life.

Make every opportunity to share your love with Christ to those around you, especially those you know and love!